Good Night, Sleep Tight: Gentle, proven solutions to help your child sleep well and wake up happy
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- Author：Kim West
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Summary
Getting a young child to go to sleep and stay asleep is one of the most challenging aspects of parenting。 Yet many parents resign themselves to enduring years of exhaustion。 Now there is a sensible， smarter alternative that really works AND it doesn't require leaving your child to cry。 K West， know to her clients as The Sleep Lady， has developed a practical， easy to follow and effective approach that is gentle on both parent and child。 The Sleep Lady Method - including a gentle， practical， step-by-step programme called The Sleep Lady Shuffle - has worked for hundreds of families。 Whether you want to start to gently shape your baby's sleep habits or address specific sleep problems， this book will give you the answers you need， the confidence to put them into action， and the good night's sleep you all deserve！
Reviews
Cathy Q de V
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This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers。 To view it， click here。 I enjoyed this book a lot。 For those of us who are uncomfortable with CIO （haven't reached *that* level of exhaustion yet！） it seems like a good option。 It has a good tone and very clear instructions about implementation。 I really appreciated how clear she was about working on nap time which was something I was having trouble understanding from other books。 I will update my review after attempting her method。UPDATE: I really wanted to use this method。 It is meant to be a gentle way to help babie I enjoyed this book a lot。 For those of us who are uncomfortable with CIO （haven't reached *that* level of exhaustion yet！） it seems like a good option。 It has a good tone and very clear instructions about implementation。 I really appreciated how clear she was about working on nap time which was something I was having trouble understanding from other books。 I will update my review after attempting her method。UPDATE: I really wanted to use this method。 It is meant to be a gentle way to help babies sleep。 However I had to stop before the first week was through。 It became evident that my presence in the room is way too stimulating for my son and it has resulted in a lot more tears than I can handle。 Will be keeping the book for reference but I begrudgingly will have to choose a more vigorous approach。 Unfortunately for Cathy of the past， I am slowly reaching that level of exhaustion。。。hopefully through some tweaking we can arrive at the optimal solution to get my baby sleeping well。 。。。more
Kristen McBee
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Has some good tips。 I don’t like them all， but that’s the deal with parenting books: take what you like and leave the rest。 The main takeaway from this one is to start naptime and bedtime routines at the first sign of tiredness so you don’t miss the sleep window。 Even if it’s way earlier than you think it should be。 It can hard to get a tired baby to sleep， and it is impossible to get an overtired one to sleep。
Grigoria Pontiki
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I'm really grateful to Ms Kim West for the Sleep Lady Shuffle technique， it worked for us and it worked really well。 She made our life a lot easier。 To be honest， I think that this book could be a large blogpost。 If you get the general idea from the writer's website and you follow basic rules of respectful parenting， then I think it will work to a good level。 Maybe it worked for us faster than other families， but I didn't have to read the whole book to make it work。 Also， I found it repetitive。 I'm really grateful to Ms Kim West for the Sleep Lady Shuffle technique， it worked for us and it worked really well。 She made our life a lot easier。 To be honest， I think that this book could be a large blogpost。 If you get the general idea from the writer's website and you follow basic rules of respectful parenting， then I think it will work to a good level。 Maybe it worked for us faster than other families， but I didn't have to read the whole book to make it work。 Also， I found it repetitive。 。。。more
Marion Johnstone
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This book helped my husband and I in what always felt like complicated sleep issues， though now seem more normal than originally thought。 We referenced this book often when coming across challenges in our daughters sleep habits for years。 Hope it helps you too！
Lizzy
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Sleep lady shuffle: sitting in chair in the room， then in doorway， hallway， until the child falls asleep （which could take forever）。 Chapters are clearly delineated by child's age， which is convenient。 The sample schedules are also helpful。 Sleep lady shuffle: sitting in chair in the room， then in doorway， hallway， until the child falls asleep （which could take forever）。 Chapters are clearly delineated by child's age， which is convenient。 The sample schedules are also helpful。 。。。more
Keila Bechtold
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We ended up using a modified version of this。 But the overall idea has saved us a lot of tears！ Ferber no longer worked on our toddler after moving。 She was terrified of her new room and we ended up bedsharing which was getting increasingly uncomfortable and needed to stop。 At a friend's recommendation， we bought this and tried it and it has been amazing！ It's not necessarily a no-cry method but way less than some others we've tried。 We ended up using a modified version of this。 But the overall idea has saved us a lot of tears！ Ferber no longer worked on our toddler after moving。 She was terrified of her new room and we ended up bedsharing which was getting increasingly uncomfortable and needed to stop。 At a friend's recommendation， we bought this and tried it and it has been amazing！ It's not necessarily a no-cry method but way less than some others we've tried。 。。。more
Aida Skrebutene
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The book gives some good insights about sleep in general。 The author claims that The sleep is the skill that has to be learned and gives guidences how to do it。However I think if you have already read some books on baby sleep matters- you won’t find a lot new information here。 But if you haven’t explored the subject yet- it might be a good source。
Anne
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I loved this book。 It's firm but gentle。 Worked great for my kids。 I loved this book。 It's firm but gentle。 Worked great for my kids。 。。。more
Liz
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Though written very hopefully and positively， the book is firm: consistency is key。 It’s nice that West doesn’t say this sleep program is perfect for everyone， but she does say that nothing will work of you’re not consistent。 However， there are still times when you wish you could get some answers: if my child is hysterical and I pick her up， you say to comfort her until calm and then replace her in the crib。 There’s no advice on what to do if she pops up crying hysterical again immediately。 Also Though written very hopefully and positively， the book is firm: consistency is key。 It’s nice that West doesn’t say this sleep program is perfect for everyone， but she does say that nothing will work of you’re not consistent。 However， there are still times when you wish you could get some answers: if my child is hysterical and I pick her up， you say to comfort her until calm and then replace her in the crib。 There’s no advice on what to do if she pops up crying hysterical again immediately。 Also， calming her - do I need to avoid the sleep crutches we’re trying to break？ Should this really be drowsy but awake， or is that only the first time you put her down？ Overall， pretty good， but I wished for a little more detail on the finer points。 。。。more
Heather
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In my extensive reading on the subject， I've come to realize that sleep training is one of those things where you need to find what sounds best to you based on your temperament， goals， and philosophy of child-rearing， and then just go with it。 Kim West provides a modification of the Ferber method that will feel， as the title indicates， gentler to parents worried that they cannot leave their child to cry on his own。 However， as with mountain climbing， so with sleep training: gentler also means a In my extensive reading on the subject， I've come to realize that sleep training is one of those things where you need to find what sounds best to you based on your temperament， goals， and philosophy of child-rearing， and then just go with it。 Kim West provides a modification of the Ferber method that will feel， as the title indicates， gentler to parents worried that they cannot leave their child to cry on his own。 However， as with mountain climbing， so with sleep training: gentler also means a lot longer。 Whereas Ferber-type methods claim to see improvement within about three days and almost complete resolution within a week or so， the Sleep Lady Shuffle is a several-week-long process of gradually moving oneself out of the child's room。 From my sleep-deprived state， this appealed a lot less to me that a more "rip the band-aid off" approach， but I've no doubt West's methods work if one follows them resolutely。What I did really appreciate （read "wish to high heaven I'd done when my baby was younger"） was her suggestions for gently prepping for good sleep habits with an under-three-month baby。 For instance， her goal of putting the baby down for sleep at least once a day in a drowsy but awake state would likely help cut down on sleep associations that have to be broken later。 And I now understand， too， the wisdom of her advice to introduce a bottle early on even if one's intent is to breastfeed exclusively。 I only read the sections applicable to babies， but she has thorough chapters on children up through age five， as well as advice for special situations such as medical issues， siblings with sleep problems， co-sleeping， etc。 All in all， it is a solid advice book， though I would probably choose another one as my personal go-to for child sleep issues。 。。。more
Huy Tran
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I learnt some good tips and applied them to my little girl， she could sleep thru the night by end of the fifth month old。
Els De Schryver
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Was skeptical at first， waited a while （too long） to give the sleep lady shuffle a try。 But her method works！！！！ My 1。5 year old now goes to sleep without making any fuss。 After months and months of drama around bed time， it's nice to have my evenings back。 Thanks sleep lady！ Was skeptical at first， waited a while （too long） to give the sleep lady shuffle a try。 But her method works！！！！ My 1。5 year old now goes to sleep without making any fuss。 After months and months of drama around bed time， it's nice to have my evenings back。 Thanks sleep lady！ 。。。more
Kate
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I did find this book helpful in troubleshooting our sleep issues。 However， I marked it as two stars for several reasons:- There is no flexibility in her method， no suggestions for adapting her method to your family’s needs and goals。 The introduction gave me the impression that she would address a variety of situations， but her method is really only designed to acclimate a child to sleeping on their own in their own room without assistance after lights out。 I suspect it works for that， but our g I did find this book helpful in troubleshooting our sleep issues。 However， I marked it as two stars for several reasons:- There is no flexibility in her method， no suggestions for adapting her method to your family’s needs and goals。 The introduction gave me the impression that she would address a variety of situations， but her method is really only designed to acclimate a child to sleeping on their own in their own room without assistance after lights out。 I suspect it works for that， but our goals were different， and she didn’t make any allowances for that， despite the fact that I have been able to figure adjustments out that do work for us。 - She says repeatedly that she supports breastfeeding （she breastfed both her children， you know）， but what she means is that she supports breastfeeding a 0-6 month old baby。 - I didn’t enjoy reading the book。 I felt talked down to through most of it and judged for my parenting style。 。。。more
Işıl Altın Duran
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Yenidoğandan 5 yaşına kadar olan süreçte， bebeğin uykularını düzenlemek için kılavuz bir kitap。 Her yaş grubu için nitelikli， bölük pörçük olmayan bir uykunun ipuçları yer alıyor。 Her ne kadar 2 aylık bir bebeğin kesintisiz 6-8 saat uyuduğunu yazıp beni üzse de， ben beğendim。
ipar_han
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Kim West， The Sleep Lady bir çocuk & aile terapisti ve uyku eğitimi uzmanı。Kim West Uyku Metodu uykuya geçişte kullanılan sallama， emzirme gibi uyku araçlarını aşamalı olarak keserek çocuğa kendi kendini rahatlatarak uykuya dalma becerisi kazandırmaya yönelik bir metod。 Uyku Eğitimi konusunda Tracy Hogg， Ferber， Harvey Karp gibi uzmanların da etkili metodları olsa da， yaptığım kısa bir ön araştırma sonucunda bana en yumuşak geçişli olanı Kim West Metodu gibi geldi。Bu metod çocuğun odada çılgınca Kim West， The Sleep Lady bir çocuk & aile terapisti ve uyku eğitimi uzmanı。Kim West Uyku Metodu uykuya geçişte kullanılan sallama， emzirme gibi uyku araçlarını aşamalı olarak keserek çocuğa kendi kendini rahatlatarak uykuya dalma becerisi kazandırmaya yönelik bir metod。 Uyku Eğitimi konusunda Tracy Hogg， Ferber， Harvey Karp gibi uzmanların da etkili metodları olsa da， yaptığım kısa bir ön araştırma sonucunda bana en yumuşak geçişli olanı Kim West Metodu gibi geldi。Bu metod çocuğun odada çılgınca ağlayarak yalnız kalmasına izin vermiyor。 Çocuklar kendi başlarına uyumayı öğrenirken， fiziksel ve sözlü olarak odada， çocuğunuzun yanında olduğunuz için kendisini güvende hissetmesini sağlıyor。 Öğrenilmiş çaresizliğe neden olmuyor。 Kim West Metodu 6 ayın üzerindeki çocuklar için önerilen bir yöntem olmasına rağmen， 6 aylık olana kadar kazandıracağınız alışkanlıklarla ilgili tavsiyeler de bulabilirsiniz kitapta。 。。。more
Melissa
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This book is the “bible” of getting my kids to sleep well！
Tatiana Blinova
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All right， there is definitely a lot of water in this book。。but you can skip it as it is written in italics。 Follow the step-by-step instructions， believe in this system and it will work。 Amen for sleeping through the night。
Coppermama
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I read many sleep books and I liked this one best。
Julie Steele
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Many echoes of Pantley and Sears， but also some helpful original content。 Not as supportive of cosleeping as Pantley but very gentle in its language and guidance。
Jessica
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Great book and system！ Recommended by my wise， mom of 2 older cousin， I was glad to take time to read it before any baby-induced sleep deprivation。 The whole plan seems really smart to me – focused on self-soothing and baby learning to get itself to sleep without using parents as crutches， and without any horrible “cry it out” Ferberizing… like I remember so distinctly from watching an episode of Mad About You which apparently aired 21 years ago！She’s got great advice for each age。 It does get r Great book and system！ Recommended by my wise， mom of 2 older cousin， I was glad to take time to read it before any baby-induced sleep deprivation。 The whole plan seems really smart to me – focused on self-soothing and baby learning to get itself to sleep without using parents as crutches， and without any horrible “cry it out” Ferberizing… like I remember so distinctly from watching an episode of Mad About You which apparently aired 21 years ago！She’s got great advice for each age。 It does get repetitive if you read it all in one go， but great to be able to pick it up at any given age and not have to flip back and forth or remember stuff from previous sections。 Info for youngest babies seems really clear and revolves around respecting sleep rhythms and putting baby down as much as possible “drowsy but awake”。 Seems easy enough to remember， and now I understand why you don’t see so much of people for the first few months after they have a baby :）Enjoyed reading， and worth reading before you have a screaming baby in the house， I think。 。。。more
Sharon Williams
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I put this method to the test and while I’ve done some tweaking I’m so happy to report I have my sleep back！ I started with my 13 month old and by 14 1/2 months she was finally sleeping through the night！
Emily Monroe
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I read on a mommy blog that the best sleep advice is to pick a method and stick with it。 Whether it is cosleeping， cry-it-out or something in between， the key to sleep happiness is consistency， according to that blog。 So I read and applied The Sleep Lady's principles and have been consistent。 Her advice is straight forward and practical。 Along with advice she includes anecdotes and age-specific chapters。 We are right at the six month mark and over the last week nights and naps have gotten way le I read on a mommy blog that the best sleep advice is to pick a method and stick with it。 Whether it is cosleeping， cry-it-out or something in between， the key to sleep happiness is consistency， according to that blog。 So I read and applied The Sleep Lady's principles and have been consistent。 Her advice is straight forward and practical。 Along with advice she includes anecdotes and age-specific chapters。 We are right at the six month mark and over the last week nights and naps have gotten way less tear-filled and they are lasting longer。 If you are searching for an "in between" sleep coaching/training method， this book lays out a simple option that is not as harsh as cry it out。 。。。more
Raziel
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"Either of those approaches is fine—if they feel right for you and right for your kids。 They aren’t fine if they don’t feel right， if they strain your marriage， if they don’t fit into your adult needs—or if they don’t help your child learn to put himself to sleep and stay asleep。"， p。 5。"we don’t want to tie our children to us， nor do we want to cut them loose。 We want that balance between security and support， confidence and freedom。"， p。 8。"This is where you have to remember that you are the c "Either of those approaches is fine—if they feel right for you and right for your kids。 They aren’t fine if they don’t feel right， if they strain your marriage， if they don’t fit into your adult needs—or if they don’t help your child learn to put himself to sleep and stay asleep。"， p。 5。"we don’t want to tie our children to us， nor do we want to cut them loose。 We want that balance between security and support， confidence and freedom。"， p。 8。"This is where you have to remember that you are the coach， not the player。 You are giving love and support and comfort and reassurance—being that secure base。 But you aren’t fixing， rescuing， or doing it all for him。"， p。 11。"Eventually， his sleep skills will be so secure that he can take them anywhere—on vacation， to his grandparents’ house， later to slumber parties， summer camp， and even off to college。"， p。 14。"we shouldn't overdo it。 Remember that balance between comforting our children and allowing them to learn to comfort themselves。 That's an essential component of sleep shaping。"， p。 81。"the important thing is this—don’t beat yourself up over things you could have done differently。 Just focus on making it better from now on。"， p。 83。"Define what you consider reasonable limits for your child， balancing his separation fears with his gift for manipulation！"， p。 205。"Remember that the fear is real， even if the monsters aren’t。"， p。 210。"We want to give our children enough comfort so that they feel safe and can go back to sleep， but not so much reinforcement that they have no incentive to give up these awakenings。"， p。 273。"Remember—do not engage her。 Bore her。 Do not take her into your bed。 Do not get into her bed。 Do not pick her up and walk around the house。 Do not criticize or scold or talk about consequences or punishments or disappointments at this particular time。 In fact， do not talk at all except for a few soft phrases like 'Night-night' or 'I love you。 Go to sleep。'”， p。 273。"Set bedtime rules， and make sure your child understands that they are rules， not suggestions！"， p。 352。"Again， I must emphasize that children find routine， structure， and boundaries comforting， especially in times of stress。"， p。 371。"you’ll get a much better sense of how and why the Sleep Lady system works， and what it needs from you: patience， consistency， and faith in your own intuition as a parent。"， p。 377。"Watch your child for her sleep cues， and adjust her schedule accordingly。 Adapt the program to the realities of your family。"， p。 393。"Don’t let them deter you。 They aren’t living your life or parenting your child。"， p。 394。"If you like what you’ve read here， then follow my advice and give it time。 If you don’t think it will work—well， I disagree， but go ahead and try something else。"， p。 394。"sleep requires learning， and learning may require a few false starts， a few moments of frustration， and even a few tears。 We can and should help our children， support our children， comfort our children， but we can’t airbrush all sadness， anger， or frustration out of their emotional picture。 Luckily， learning isn’t only about frustration。 It’s about pride， achievement， a sense of self-worth—and a good night’s sleep。"， p。 396。 。。。more
Kristin
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Worked pretty well for both my kids。 But other friends said it didn't work， so your mileage may very。 Worked pretty well for both my kids。 But other friends said it didn't work， so your mileage may very。 。。。more
Shelby
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It has been a few years since I read this but the method is a good one。 I didn't fully implement it， but I did take some ideas from it。 Anything to help out new parents with the stressful sleepless nights counts。 It has been a few years since I read this but the method is a good one。 I didn't fully implement it， but I did take some ideas from it。 Anything to help out new parents with the stressful sleepless nights counts。 。。。more
Alicia
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I can see where this would be helpful， but perhaps for slightly older kids （not a 6 month old）。 It seemed to be a lot of "this is what should happen" instead of useful tips to actually get there。"Put the baby in bed awake， and then stand nearby and calm them with minimal physical contact。" I'm sorry。。 how is that supposed to happen？ My kid just ends up hysterical and staring at me。The No Cry Method seems to have more specific， useable suggestions （even if they are a bit more parent-involved）。 I can see where this would be helpful， but perhaps for slightly older kids （not a 6 month old）。 It seemed to be a lot of "this is what should happen" instead of useful tips to actually get there。"Put the baby in bed awake， and then stand nearby and calm them with minimal physical contact。" I'm sorry。。 how is that supposed to happen？ My kid just ends up hysterical and staring at me。The No Cry Method seems to have more specific， useable suggestions （even if they are a bit more parent-involved）。 。。。more
Marivi
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I have to give this book 5 stars because even though I was scared to try it， my 4。5 year is finally （FINALLY！） able to go to sleep without me。 I knew it would be a fight， but guess what？ The crying and yelling only lasted about 30 minutes with a interlude for a problem-solving session （see another great book for more on that called "How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen）。 Little by little over the course of a couple of weeks I went from "sleeping" in a chair next to his bed to now sleeping in t I have to give this book 5 stars because even though I was scared to try it， my 4。5 year is finally （FINALLY！） able to go to sleep without me。 I knew it would be a fight， but guess what？ The crying and yelling only lasted about 30 minutes with a interlude for a problem-solving session （see another great book for more on that called "How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen）。 Little by little over the course of a couple of weeks I went from "sleeping" in a chair next to his bed to now sleeping in the other room！ A-maz-ing！ 。。。more
Morgan Thompson
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All of these sleep books are basically the same。。。。 cry-it-out （often masked as "drowsy but awake"） with varying degrees of comfort measures that are more for the parent than the child。 This one is decent， although you're not going to find anything mind blowing here。 The Sleep Lady Shuffle personally sounds like torture to me， sitting in a dark room with my crying child for weeks on end。 It's really hard listening to your baby cry from downstairs or even outside， let alone being in the room。 Jus All of these sleep books are basically the same。。。。 cry-it-out （often masked as "drowsy but awake"） with varying degrees of comfort measures that are more for the parent than the child。 This one is decent， although you're not going to find anything mind blowing here。 The Sleep Lady Shuffle personally sounds like torture to me， sitting in a dark room with my crying child for weeks on end。 It's really hard listening to your baby cry from downstairs or even outside， let alone being in the room。 Just not my style， and definitely wouldn't work for my baby 。。。more
Owen
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Great resource for getting babies and young kids to sleep through the night。 Some of the chapters are a little repetitive as she has set this book up to be an easy reference - you can read the chapter for your specific age and get most of the content。
Burcu
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